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The Best Ways For You To Love Others Even If The World Hates

Abstract Art Blog Love Article Photo By Nick Fewings

Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash

by: Marisa D. Aceves

Updated: March 16, 2021

Dissension, poverty, and the ongoing threat of a global pandemic have robbed us of our freedom, dreams, and financial security.

As the skeletons from our racist past dance gleefully on the backs of perished confederate oppressors, we tremble with fear in anticipation of the chaos that lies ahead.

When the world crumbles, and no one wishes to reach a point of understanding, how do we practice the art of love in an age driven by hate and division?

Many years ago, when I was still in school, I had a troubled friend who consistently manipulated me into feeling sorry for them. Things were difficult for them at that time. They had overcome many obstacles to settle in America. I tried with all the sensitivity I had to support them, yet nothing I did seemed to change their pessimistic view. As time went on, they grew increasingly bitter and quarrelsome. Then, one afternoon, they called me. This time, however, there was something different about their manner. I immediately sensed there was malice behind their pleasant words. Anger and resentment began to build. Instantly I knew, with a sick feeling in my stomach, that they were playing mind games. At first, I wanted to yell at them. I even considered a halfhearted apology to avoid confrontation, but somehow I innately understood that this wouldn’t solve the problem. That night, I had a prophetic dream about them using people to gang up on me under a false accusation. The next day, my dream became a reality. I didn’t apologize; I purposefully ended the relationship. Another vulnerable, emotionally needy person took my place. The argument I long dreaded, the constant subject of many sleepless nights, never happened because I refused to engage. Instead, I took the pacifists’ approach and sought out healthier relationships. Years later, my former friend apologized, and I forgave them.

Unfortunately, things don’t always end this well. Often you seek closure where there is none. At some point, you have to come to the acceptance that as much as you wish you could control the outcome, you’re only responsible for your actions. Whenever you encounter a difficult situation, one in which you feel the urge to fight to defend your world view, you need to consider whether the reward is greater than the risk. In this egocentric world, it’s easy to give in to your need to be right at all costs, even when you have no reason to start an argument. There are times, however, when you must stand up for what you believe. Speaking out to end abuse or criminality in any shape or form is admirable, but arguing to win or to purposely cause division will only increase discontent, not lessen it. Wisely choose to practice restraint.

You don’t have to win the war with words or blows. Capture your neighbors’ trust with distance, love, consideration, and understanding. Take some valuable time to consider these helpful suggestions.

Take a Metaphorical Walk In Their Shoes

It’s essential to sympathize with what others are going through. They may be experiencing hard times, prolonged illness, or painful loss. These circumstantial factors will often color the way they see specific issues. While it’s good to show them you care by letting them know you respect their point of view, you shouldn’t excuse inappropriate or hateful behavior.

Practice The Art Of Patience

I know this one is difficult, especially when you’d like nothing better than to punch that special someone in the face. You can’t do this; you’ll get arrested. Walking away briefly or taking a break will help you to gain your composure. Understand that it may take some time to come to a point where you both agree to disagree without killing each other.

Listen More, Talk Less

Sometimes, you miss what others are trying to share with you because you’re too focused on your fears. You may find at the end of your discussion that you have similar concerns, but different solutions. If you want others to consider your research and opinions, you have to be ready to entertain theirs.

Pray For Peace

One of the most important things you could do to promote openness and compassion, praying, is a powerful weapon against the worlds’ darkness. When you meditate upon peace and what it means for the world, your family, and the people you come into contact with, you’re making a concerted effort to act beneficially in all circumstances. Wishing others peace as well as making it a priority for your life helps to end negative feelings and thoughts that threaten to keep you in a state of unrest.

Forgive

It’s not easy to forgive others that have hurt you. Often you feel like you’re the victim in need of redemption. However, the alternative leaves you with poor physical health, unsound mind, and broken relationships. Try to make an effort to put old hurts behind you. Gently let the negative memories go. Dwelling on them doesn’t help you to move on and love others. Make room for positive thoughts and new experiences.

Take An Interest In Others

Spend time with friends and family. Make an effort to keep in touch with the people that care and support you. Try to add something meaningful to the conversation, making sure that you listen as much as you contribute. Share your triumphs, challenges, and hobbies. Comfort them when they require extra support.

It’s never too late to offer your time and talents to make this space ball we call Earth a better place. It doesn’t take tons of money, a pink Cadillac, celebrity status, or big hair to get the job done. All that is required is a deep-seated need to improve the lives of others.

 

About The Author

Hello, I’m Marisa D. Aceves. I’m a forever curious copy and content writer, artist, marketer, and health advocate. I help artists and creative business owners reach their goals and live their lives to the fullest. Follow my blog, check out my art, and receive my latest tips on art marketing, digital marketing, and health and wellness.

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The Only Thing You Should Remember On Valentine’s Day

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Marisa D. Aceves. Grateful Heart: Twinkling Heart Stars. digital photography. 2016.

To view more of my work, please visit acevesart.com .

Why should I wait for love when I can find it.
Yet it appears I find it in the smile on
your face and a child’s joyful laughter
complete, resplendent, never far away,
calling to me during times of war and peace.

 

I feel that I must share this series at a time when many would question whether there was any good in this world.

The frequency with which we view violence and hate in our everyday lives leads us to believe that love is a myth. However, there are people out there that do know what love is all about. Perhaps you’ve met some along the way. They appreciate you, support your efforts, and are encouraged by your success.

Sweethearts are wonderful. We all wish we had one.
However, in their absence, we can remain appreciative. Take the time this weekend to remind the special, giving people in your life how much you care.

Let’s kill those Valentines’ blues.

Have a blessed weekend and a joyful week!
Remember always, to live life creatively!

 

Ordinary Objects That Look Like Cell Division

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Marisa D. Aceves. Cell Division. digital photography. 2017.

To view more of my work, please visit acevesart.com.

Miracle Division

Wonder of life

Enveloped in love

 

Have a wonderful weekend! Always be grateful for loving, generous people that make each day a special occasion.

 

A Silent Dedication To The Tough But Tender

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Marisa D. Aceves. Grateful Heart: Steel Butterfly Hearts. digital photography.  2016

To view more of my work, please visit acevesart.com.

Hard yet gentle

Strength holds fragile love in its grasp

This our subtle flower

Guarded by a crown

I’d like to take a little time out this busy fall weekend to dedicate this photo collage to all the tough but tender folks in the world. Sometimes they reveal difficult truths to save us from our own destruction. At first, this makes us angry and we scoff at their timeworn advice. Later, we realize their love was real not conditional. They helped us become the older, wiser people that we are today. If you are moved to share this dedication with a loved one in their honor, take the precious opportunity that life presents. However, if your loved one is no longer with us, take this moment of silence to reflect on the impact they made in your life.

Have a wonderful and blessed weekend

❤️ As always, don’t forget to live life creatively!

Grateful Heart Flower Composition: A Natural Thank you To My Readers

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Marisa D. Aceves. Grateful Heart Flower Composition. digital photography. 2016

To view more of my work, please visit acevesart.com

I hurt my hand and wrist last week, so I’ll keep this post nice and short until I recover.

This photo collage is dedicated to the people who have visited this site and supported me.

Have a wonderful weekend; stay safe, creative, loving, and grateful.

Pass The Love Around:Grateful Hearts Series

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Marisa D. Aceves. Grateful Heart: Twinkling Heart Stars. digital photography. 2016.

To view more of my work, please visit acevesart.com .

Love waits patiently….

Closer than wondering minds can percieve

Nearer still, if you dare to believe

 

I feel that I must share this series at a time when many would question whether there was any good in this world. The frequency with which we view violence and hate in our everyday lives would lead us to believe that love is a myth, an outdated set of rules our grandparents were forced to adhere to. However, there are people out there that do know what love is all about. Perhaps you have met some along the way. They accept you for who you are, support you during difficult times and are encouraged by your success. I kindly ask that this weekend, or sometime this coming week, you let the special, loving people in your life know just how much you appreciate their presence and contribution to your life.

Have a blessed weekend and a joyful week!

Remember always, to live life creatively!

 

Ordinary Objects That Look Like Mysterious Landscapes

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Marisa D. Aceves. Surfacescape: Star Forest (B&W). digital photography 2016.

To view more of my work, please visit acevesart.com

Millions of stars stand on each others heads. Prickly fingers dare to grasp the pulsing light of the midday sun.  Their constant companionship wins friends, loves the first breath of spring and keeps close the color of life ensured.

What does this object remind you of?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ordinary Objects That Look Like Colorful Landscapes

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Marisa D. Aceves. Violet Orchid Love. digital photography. 2015.

To view more of my work, please check out acevesart.com

Violet folds gather together. Their grace is evident, though the affair is brief. They are not like the rest of us, surrendering their beauty to foreseen frailties. That is the advantage of being plastic and soulless, having no light but giving the appearance of life. Not content to blossom in their time, they chose to remain vicious pretenders. Stealing love from those that weep in darkness, their faces will meet the dust of succeeding ages. All false gods die not to a celebratory march, but instead to the convenient and constant failing of memory.

This photo was taken from an object that we bought to decorate my mother’s room.  The price was right. She loved it. We bought it. She is such a fan of purple. Every time I see the color, I think of her and her contribution to our lives. The lighting was dim, but I was able to shoot a couple of photographs that I felt best illustrated the theme that this object brought to mind.  Several times in our lives, we are saddened by the fact that we do not appear to have what society tell us that we need to have in order to be considered worthy.  Some people appear to “have it all”, but appearances are not always reality. Sometimes a beautiful face hides great evil.   What does this object remind you of?

What Is Your Artistic Legacy?

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Marisa D. Aceves. Grandmother’s House: 1st Bedroom. digital photography

Years from now…legacy

article by Marisa D. Aceves

For the last three months our minds, hearts, and lives have been tied up in preparing Eloisa’s house for sale.

Although things have slowed down considerably, I have still managed to find solace in faithfully recording some small treasures and a few rooms that remind me of my grandmother’s love.

We will make the long trip to her house again this coming week, but the journey will be a bittersweet one.

Potential buyers will traipse through the long corridor with its’ gold linoleum floors, gradually making their way through the living room, bedroom, kitchen and bath.

Eloisa was not her house; it was only a place she occupied for a certain period of time.

She has been gone for fourteen years, yet our memories of her remain.

It is not as though she sat up one day and announced that she was going to have a wonderful life and endear herself to many of the people that she came into contact with, but that is exactly what she did and all within the small, intimate confines of a typical Texas neighborhood.

The world may find the existence of an ordinary housewife boring even inconsequential.

“There’s not much of a story to tell”, they’d say under their breath preferring to read and write about flamboyant, drunken playwrights or headstrong, oversexed politicians.

There is a story to tell.

While the majority of the world may lack the imagination to see the overlooked beauty and profoundness of everyday occurrences, my grandmother knew that it is a series of small moments that make up our lives not just a couple of huge, game changing events.

If we can maintain a constant attitude of gratefulness for each and every second we are blessed to experience, we will never lose the child-like sense of wonder that leads to happiness.

She grew up sheltered from the persistent pessimism of her day.

Simple swatches of left-over wrapping paper were saved fastidiously, but not out of fear that she would not have enough of the everyday necessities we often take for granted.

“Someone else will need them!,” she would say as she carefully cut the small pieces of tape that sealed her latest birthday present, gently folding the paper into a neat rectangle for a neighbors future use.

Whenever someone was hungry, she always had beans, buttery tortillas and pinched star cookies ready to take home.

My grandmother lived her life for others; the majority of the things she did or said revolved around what was best for them.

She never judged you because you had problems; she would always pray for you and give you a big hug when you were ready to leave.

Eloisa’s legacy was a life of unconditional love and acceptance; it was a life steeped in spiritual simplicity.

Our legacy might be a different one than my grandmother’s, but all of us have an intense longing to be loved and remembered.

We want to know that somehow in this crazy, unpredictable world we made a difference.

What is your artistic legacy?

Is your work a way of life?

Does it illustrate your dreams, fears, and hopes?

What does it reveal about the way you view yourself and others?

Will you make a name for yourself and die lonely, or will you end this life with gratitude surrounded by friends and family?

Can you really have it all or do you believe you must sacrifice everything for your art?

These are questions only you can answer?

Perhaps your legacy will be based on a mantra you invent when you’re sixteen years old or maybe like Eloisa you will simply live an artful life that speaks for itself.